- Author: Marianne Bird
We have multiple programs that serve youth in 4-H: fun camps; authentic service-learning opportunities for teens; hands-on curriculum that give kids in afterschool settings the chance to be scientists or learn to cook. But for just a moment I'd like to focus our oldest and most tried-and-true youth development experience—our 4-H clubs.
I wasn't in 4-H as a child, but I had a very similar club experience growing up. I don't remember kids being in 4-H in my suburban neighborhood (most were Boy Scouts or Girl Scouts), and what I wanted most was to be a Camp Fire Girl. My friend, Pam Thomson, was a year older and her mom was her Camp Fire club leader. Every morning when I walked to school I passed Pam's house where, to my amazement, there were 10 Blue Bird symbols painted on the driveway, each with the name of a girl in the club. I couldn't wait to join my own Blue Bird club and wear the nifty uniform (blue skirt, white blouse, red vest) that showed I belonged. I had that opportunity in third grade.
My most powerful experiences in Camp Fire came much later when, just as I entered middle school, a mom new to the area stepped in to take leadership of our then struggling group. Mrs. Williams was like no other adult I had ever met. That fall she invited us to a slumber party at her house to kick off the program year. Imagine that—a grown-up inviting me to a slumber party! We stayed up late and she pulled out a big piece of paper, asked us what we wanted to do in the year ahead, and scribed every idea. Talk about feeling empowered! That list became a roadmap to camping adventures, learning skills, writing books, organizing fundraisers, planning trips, and giving service. We worked with younger kids, learned to cook, volunteered at day camp and, over time, developed deep friendships.
What is the Club experience about? It's about independence and discovering who you are. It's about decision making and planning and recognizing the importance of following through on commitments. It's about being part of a team and learning how to be and work with others. It's about struggles and disappointments when things don't go as planned. It's about celebration and recognition when projects are completed and goals are met. It's about learning practical skills like balancing a check book or how to cook, and learning the bigger life skills like compromise and communication. It's about group. It's about belonging. Most importantly, the club experience is about relationships.
4-H club and project leaders sit in a magical place with young people that few other adults enjoy. 4-H adults are an authority, yes, but more so a partner in a youth's journey of learning and discovery. Ideally, they help young people express their ideas, plan and deliver on those plans, and reflect upon their experiences. They listen and encourage, counsel and comfort, challenge and play. More often than not, they're in it for the long-haul, inspiring and witnessing a young person's growth over time. How many places can a kid find that from an adult who's not their parent?
This is the value of our 4-H club experience. It's a place to try new things, to learn, to belong. It's a place to realize who we are and uncover our gifts. It's people who know us, encourage us, challenge us, and care for us. A club can be a life-changing experience. I know this. Thank you, Mrs. Williams.
Marianne (red shirt) with Mrs. Williams (back row with long, blond hair) and their Camp Fire Club during their senior year in high school.
- Author: Marianne Bird
Of all the heartache and disappointment the pandemic dealt last year, letting go of camp was one of the most difficult for me. In February, 4-H decided statewide to forego resident camp programs again this summer. However, Sacramento County 4-H will provide a local day camp experience that promises a rich, fun learning experience. We're hoping campers are waiting!
In my youth development career—first with Camp Fire and now with 4-H—I have seen camp's power to change lives and inspire a better world. It's the best place for kids to learn independence yet how to live in community; to foster discovery and awe; to understand and value nature; to know themselves and respect differences in others; to grow in teamwork, responsibility and leadership. These things are not unique to resident camp; they happen for day campers, too.
Day camp is not a consolation prize because we lost our overnight camp experience. Day camp is its own unique program that offers opportunity and growth in its own right. Yes, we send campers back home (dirty, tired and happy) at the end of each day, and you rest them, clean them up and send them back for another day of adventure. Sometimes this is a perfect way for youth who might not attend overnight camp (because of other commitments, or they're not quite ready to leave home for a week, or their parents aren't ready to have them leave home!) to realize the benefits of camp.
4-H day camp will contain the elements that make camp a special and unique learning environment. Kids will bond with other campers and the teenage staff they adore. They'll experience making decisions and living within a small group, the importance of speaking up and of compromise. They'll learn more about the natural world through hands-on activities, guest presenters, and the open outdoors. And some will feel challenged in new ways…and the pride that comes with mastering things that are difficult.
Sacramento's 4-H day camp will run June 22-24 at River Bend Park. For further detail, contact Sacramento County 4-H at Sacramento4h@ucanr.edu. Please consider this opportunity for your child. Talk it over with them. See if they have a friend who might want to come, too. They need not be a current 4-H member. And rest assured, every precaution is taken to assure the experience is safe, especially during COVID-19.
Camp gave me my love for the wilderness, the passion I feel for my work, and forever friends. And for me, it all started at day camp.
- Author: Marianne Bird
Many of you know that camp was, and still is, a passion for me. Not only was it where I learned to love the wilderness, I also discovered a lot about myself during those summers in the mountains. It was at camp that I decided that I wanted to work with kids, and lessons from those early experiences still resonate. Here's an example.
It must have been my second or third summer on staff (I was probably 20). I was excited about seeing my campers and the upcoming session. In my head I had planned a terrific week with tons of activities I knew they'd love: a hike up the Buttes, baking cookies in a reflector oven over the campfire, sunrise canoeing on the lake. I had dutifully recorded my plan on my Session at a Glance, every moment of the week scheduled. But when I shared my session plan with the camp director, Alicia, her comment surprised me.
“You know,” she said, “you shouldn't completely fill out your session plan before your kids get here.” Wait…wasn't that what I was asked to do? Plan the program? Make the magic happen?
“Really, you should give space and opportunity for their ideas,” Alicia continued. “Find out what they want to do with their week.”
I heard her comments, but didn't fully understand. Or maybe it wasn't that I didn't understand, but that I wanted to believe that I knew what would be best for a great week at camp. Planning ahead took all the guess-work out of daily schedules. Plus, how would campers know what would be the most fun if they weren't familiar with some new activities I wanted to try?
Listening to young people and making space for their ideas is one of many teachings that I've come to appreciate more with time. It seems self-evident that kids should have choice and input into their activities, especially in out-of-school time. My camp director knew a deeper truth that I didn't appreciate back then: that listening to young people and embracing their ideas nurtures feelings of importance and a sense of empowerment. Such opportunities are rare for kids.
There are many reasons the ideas of youth aren't heard. Sometime we're too busy or it's inconvenient. Sometime we feel the responsibility to get the plan done. It's easier to do it ourselves, or we think we know best. And sometimes kids are so use to adults running the show, they're hesitant to share what they're thinking.
4-H can and should be a place where young people are heard, where their ideas are valued, and where they have a sense of control in their club and projects. The environment we create should help kids find their voice, and we do that by listening.
It's still hard for me to step back and allow youth to step up when I think I have the answers. It's something I continually work on.
I think Alicia would be pleased to know that.
- Author: Marianne Bird
Discovering your passion. Taking responsibility. Being part of a team. A special bond with an adult who cares. Learning about yourself. Knowing you're really good at something. Showing at Fair and making forever friends. The first time sleeping under the stars. 4-H is all these things. Those of us who care about this program usually have a defining relationship or experience within 4-H that we treasure.
Among the many life-changing things our organization does, 4-H instills the value of helping others. By sharing their animals with school kids or at nursing homes, serving as a camp counselor for younger campers, or adopting a family during the holidays, 4-H youth learn the importance of generosity. Their experiences in caring for others is self-reinforcing as they find their own lives enriched. Indeed, they learn there is a gift in giving.
Soon many of you will receive an invitation from the California 4-H Foundation to support the program we love. It comes this time of year—with so many other requests for your generosity—and we hope you'll consider a gift to our local 4-H program. For so many of us, 4-H has been a conduit to growth, friendship, and service that truly makes a difference in our lives and the lives of others.
Should you choose to support Sacramento County 4-H with a financial contribution, every penny given through the California 4-H Foundation will come directly back to us. Simply write in Sacramento County as where you'd like your gift designated.
Should you choose to give online on Giving Tuesday (December 1), the California 4-H Foundation will match your gift. If you give $100, Sacramento 4-H receives $200! But you'll need to stay up late on Monday to be an early-giver Tuesday morning at the Foundation matches the first $25,000 in gifts.
Your generosity supports youth attending leadership conferences, provides assistance for families needing help with enrollment fees, even pays for the copy machine our volunteers use in the office. Your gift is especially important this year as COVID-19 means more families face economic hardships and our public funding will undoubtedly be reduced.
4-H volunteers understand the gift of giving. I see evidence of that daily. It's what motivates us to power through with program during a time when face-to-face gatherings are limited. It's what inspires us to find ways to connect with kids when they need connection the most. And it comes back to us in the satisfaction of seeing the children we guide explore their world, master tasks, grow in confidence, and form unique friendships with their peers and with us.
Thank you for believing in 4-H. You give a lot to the program you love. I hope you will join with me to give just a bit more this year-end.
I value each of you and the gift you are to our program.
- Author: Marianne Bird
It's been almost four months since the coronavirus transformed our communities and created changes that, just last February, we would never have dreamed possible. The shutting down and now gradual re-opening of where we work, shop, live and play has affected all of us in different ways. Some have lost jobs. Others work from home amidst supervising children and schoolwork. As someone who lives by herself, I've felt tremendous loneliness and loss as I've missed my family and had to let go of the weekends I would have been at camp leading 4-H programs.
While 4-H On the Wild Side didn't happen at Camp Gold Hollow this spring, it did take place in a virtual format. Seven teens and two adult volunteers created and delivered an environmental education lesson for 4th grade classes in Elk Grove. It was in working with this dedicated group, and interacting with the elementary school students and their teachers, that I realized how the epidemic has impacted our youth. Never, in all my years in the field, have I worked with teenagers so available and eager to meet, to plan, to deliver. Never have classroom teachers been so eager to include 4-H programming in their day. And never have I been so convinced of how much 4-H is needed.
What is it our kids need at this point in time? They need to feel empowered to affect their own lives and their community. They need to feel accomplished and a sense of mastery, to see their skills grow. They need connection with their peers, to work with others and feel comradery. And now, more than ever, our youth need trusted adults to coach, to listen, to support, to care. They need you.
In the coming weeks we'll be releasing protocols for safe, in person 4-H meetings. For those of you who will choose to meet with project members in person, the guidelines are straight forward and fairly easy to implement in many project areas. For those of you who are parents and deciding if your child will attend in person project meetings, I would invite you to review the protocols and talk with those adults who will lead the project to better understand their plan.
If a virtual format works for your project, we'll support that, too. We plan to offer training on making online learning engaging and experiential, key components to any quality 4-H program. I learned first-hand that a virtual experience can be very meaningful as one of our 4-H On the Wild Side teen teachers shared. “Having this online project this year helped me stay productive with these shifts in life, and it is going to do so much to engage the students in their classrooms,” she wrote in an email. “I will continuously say thank you for these past three years in being a part of this family.”
Kids seek meaningful experiences, especially now, and it's what we do so well. So thank you for your willingness, the creative energy and extra time you give to make things work for our youth. Jen, Beryl and I are here to support you in whatever you need to move forward. We appreciate you very, very much.
[In case you missed it on Big Dig Day! Just our way to say Thanks...https://youtu.be/2mJlHze50wc]
Marianne Bird
4-H Youth Development Advisor